Monday, January 15, 2018

The Me I Want to Be

Well, I thought a few of my other posts would be my last but as I was told during my YAV year, it is a year of service for a lifetime of change and boy were they right. It has been a whirlwind experience since my YAV year finished. And unlike others, I didn't truly transition from my year because I stayed in Scotland and did my Masters and spent more time in the communities there. I didn't have to say all of those painful goodbyes the first time, and I didn't have to leave a place I loved and try and find myself in an old place (home) that felt different. I definitely had a transition last September and it was different being a student in Glasgow instead of a YAV but I didn't truly go through my transition until the last few months. And due to this amazing experience I think my life will forever be transitioning.

I returned home from Glasgow in November and I returned to a bridal shower and Thanksgiving with Christmas following soon after. I didn't really get a chance to sit back and breathe and think about my journey or how moving back was going to impact me. But since Christmas I have started reading Daring Greatly by Brene Brown and I have been reading about being vulnerable and about shame. (If you haven't read her books, go buy them now! She is amazing.) Anyway, I have been reading the book and learning about vulnerability at the same time as all of the feelings of moving back have been flooding in.

I am a pretty emotional person and if you know me at all, you will laugh and think that is an understatement. I feel everything with all of my heart and most of the time it is a good thing. For all of the great things and experiences in my life it means that I am extremely positive and happy and meet every situation I am in with joy and excitement. But the other side of that is the heartbreak and sadness that come with change and loss and how to deal with it. Because I feel everything so strongly the sad emotions are felt just as strongly as the happy ones. So the last few months have been overwhelming and exhausting and I am still processing them. But since I am trying to be vulnerable I thought I would share some of my feelings.

I miss Scotland most days, I miss the people mostly, both my friends who became family and the people in all the communities I worked in and lived in. I miss the strangers on the street and I miss the spirit of Scotland. I now appreciate how everyone pulls together and cares about one another and I think Scotland as a country is a very unique place.

I also miss who I got to be in Scotland. I think it takes most people their whole lives to figure out who they want to be, and I was lucky enough to figure that out and be that person in my young twenties. I was placed in a unique situation that pushed me to be independent, solve my own problems, meet new people, and find my own happiness. I grew a confidence that is unexplainable and had a spirit about me that I would never want to lose. I was truly comfortable with my life and who I was as a person.

When I moved home a lot of that changed. I felt like I lost a part of myself and what was worse was I couldn't find the words to explain it to anyone. I moved back in with my parents (after living independently for 6 years), I left a job that I loved, and I left that spirit and confidence in Glasgow. And the last few months have been really hard. I have had to think about who I am in this new space and how do I get that confidence and spirit back. I have had to try and seek out purpose in my everyday life where in Scotland it was naturally given to me. I have had to decide what aspects of a job are deal breakers and what I will settle for. I had to talk and cry about it all to name those feelings. And all of this is new to me so it has been a bit rocky.

Luckily I have had family and friends surrounding me and have had their constant worried looks and comments when I need my space or am cranky because I am unhappy and still trying to figure it out. I am grateful for their patience and still loving me despite it. I know the Bay Area has a lot more to explore and a lot to offer and I am excited for the opportunity to see if it is the place I am looking for. I am excited for the possibility to get that confidence and spirit back and I am ready for all the challenges that come with that. I know the transition is a constant journey between comfort, questioning, and discomfort but I also know that with that comes reflection and learning and growing and I don't see how any of that is bad for a person.

So I hope you join me this year in thinking about your life, and how you can join me in being vulnerable and reflect on your choices and actions to be the you, you want to be.

Blessings,
Julie

Thursday, April 20, 2017

Life is All About Prioritising

I have been asked to write a blog post for the Priority Areas newsletter so I have decided to kill two birds with one stone and write a post on here as well. I have been extremely busy with life, school, friends, theGKexperience and so I haven't spent as much time as I would like journaling and blogging. So I find this post is actually quite relevant since it is all about priorities. Here is what I wrote for the newsletter and I hope you all enjoy it too. 

Depending on who you ask, where you are from, or what age you are one might think that priorities differ between people, but in reality I don’t believe they really do. While volunteering with theGKexperience Just Do It group and chatting with two of the young people, one from Black hill and one from Ruchazie, and one young leader from Ruchazie I found that a lot of our priorities are similar. Being from a very different background from the young people we work with at theGKexperience I was surprised and encouraged by their responses when asked what their priorities were. I received some answers such as my phone, football, and wifi, but I also received some really thoughtful answers such as family, friends, and a very profound answer from Josh, one of our young leaders. He said that “he prioritises being happy and doing the things he wants.” I can relate to all of these priorities and I think it is important that no matter what age you are or what background you come from that you do prioritise the things that make you happy in life.

For me, that means my family, my community here in Scotland, and my passion for social enterprises and charities. But I also realise that sometimes we have to prioritise aspects of our life that we are not as interested in, but are still important for our development. All three of the young people I talked with mentioned that they do not enjoy going to school or college but had to make it a priority over other things because they knew they had to. But interestingly all three of them found that when they engaged in school and started attending regularly they enjoyed it more because they made friends and knew what they were supposed to be learning. Similarly, I also do not enjoy my University course as much as other aspects of my life but understand that it is an important step for my future and that I just need to stick it out.

While talking we all discussed how important going away on residential was for us. When asked, why do we make going away to residential a priority, both Josh and Shelbie answered that it is important for making new friends and trying new activities that you don’t normally get the chance to do. Residential is a new experience for me as a volunteer as well and I am so glad I was able to go and make new friends and try new activities. Residential gives everyone the space to be themselves without any distractions and allows everyone to just have fun.

Going on residential also reminded me of the days when I was 13 and used to go away to camp each summer. It reminded me of the fun I had, the team building, persevering through challenges, and it got me out of my regular routine and into a new space with new people. I am really proud of the person I am becoming and it is due to the things I prioritise in my life. I always make happiness a priority, and if I am unhappy, I try and change my circumstances. We realised even our support networks want us to prioritise things in our lives. When asked what our caretakers want us to prioritise, I answered that my family would want me to be safe, to enjoy what I am doing, and to be healthy. Shelbie thought her mom would want her to have a clean room and to hang about with the right people. All three of the participants, Josh, Shelbie, and Chloe all said that they thought their caretakers didn’t care as much if they made mistakes or were not perfect, they just wanted them to be happy with what they were doing. Josh said when he is at GK he just wants to have fun and to encourage others to do the same. I think I can say for all of us how important theGKexperience is in our lives and that without it as a priority we would all be in a different place then we are today.

As Elisabeth Hasselbeck once said “Nobody’s life is ever all balanced. It’s a conscious decision to choose your priorities every day.” We can’t expect to always have our ducks in a row, but we can try to live happy fulfilled lives and encourage our friends and neighbours to do so too.

Blessings,
Julie Sanders



Tuesday, January 31, 2017

I WELCOME REFUGEES

Today I was thinking a lot about home. It is my mom's birthday so I called her, I also was texting with my sister and a few of my friends from home. That then led me to go back through my pictures from last year as a YAV and as a newbie in Glasgow. Many of them made me laugh at how many ridiculous things I did with Sam in the flat because we were living simply. Some of them made me remember the many beautiful views and scenic areas of Glasgow and Scotland, and some made me remember the really tough times I had last year and the challenges I still face today. Mostly looking on pictures was really enjoyable and almost like going through a timeline of pictures over the year. As I got to one picture I was inspired to write this blog due to the timing of some political issues facing the United States this past week.

The one picture that really spoke out to me was this one:
This picture was taken at George Square in Glasgow in September 2015 just a week after we had arrived. There was a vigil in the square to remember Syrian refugees. So just a little less than a year and a half ago I was showing my support for refugees in Glasgow. Now more than ever, refugees need our support back home. Seeing this picture today was exactly the type of hope I needed. We kept this sign in our flat all year hanging on the wall. I am not sure if the sign is still in the flat but I do know that I still carry its message with me every day. I am proud to be an American but these past few weeks it has been embarrassing. 

I have had to constantly remind myself that the decisions made by Trump are not views that embody American values. He is a disgrace and his executive orders and the decisions he has made thus far are a disgrace. It hurts my heart, makes me angry, and makes me feel helpless that I cannot do more living here in Glasgow. But just as I was angry and frustrated when Brexit happened and felt hopeless because I was not a British citizen, couldn't vote, and had to see people I worked with each day worried about the effect it might have on their lives. I feel the same feelings now, living in Glasgow detached from the first hand experiences of this past weeks decisions but still seeing it all over the media, and in every conversation. 

So I am reaching out and asking for help. Since I cannot call my senators, I encourage everyone that can call their senators or congressmen and congresswomen to do so. If you can safely and non-violently protest, go protest. And most of all I encourage everyone to show love and kindness to those immigrant and refugee brothers and sisters around us. With solidarity and hope, I believe we can overcome this. 

Blessings, 
Julie

Monday, December 12, 2016

It's Been a While

As those of you who read my blog regularly noticed, I haven't written in a while. If I am being honest this year has started out much differently than I thought it would and I wanted to write sooner, but couldn't find the words.

My transition from YAV to University of Glasgow masters student was a huge transition. Probably the hardest transition I have had in my 24 years, or at least that I remember. I thought moving to a new country 5,000 miles away from home last year would be the biggest transition, or maybe moving away from home at 18 to start University. But boy was I wrong. This year definitely is the winner. I didn't realise how difficult going home and seeing family and friends and all the familiar things would make it so difficult to come back to a place that I also hold very close to my heart. I think this transition was made more difficult with the realisation that my other YAVs were not with me anymore and that I wouldn't be doing the same work each day.

I know I signed up to go back to school, but after being out for a year and being so active: constantly running around with kids, crawling on the floor, and talking to people all day long; I forgot what it was like to sit in a classroom and listen to a lecturer for 5 hours a day, every day. It is exhausting! More exhausting than crawling around on the floor with toddlers if you can believe that. And so I freaked out. I worried that I made the wrong decision to stay here. I worried that this year would be a waste and I wished every day for many weeks that I could quit and go home.

And throughout this I was trying to process my feelings of my YAV year. I was grieving the previous year and all that I had learned. I missed my placement, I missed my roommates, I missed my schedule. I missed feeling useful and helping people every day. But by struggling through the transition I got to see which people were there for me on the phone listening to me cry, which people noticed that I wasn't myself and asked what was wrong, and which people gave me advice and encouraged me to be in the present and learn all that I can from being a student again.

I say thank you to all those people. Although every week has its ups and downs, in the end I am glad I stayed because I have learned so much about myself and what I want from my future in just these short three months. I have learned that I will definitely not be doing a PhD because classroom learning is not my style. I am a learn on the job, through hands-on experience, making mistakes kind of girl. But I never would have learned this had I not gone back to school. So I am thankful the programme is only a year long.

I have learned to rely on the communities of people that I do have here, and to force myself to make new friends even when it is more comfortable to stay home in my pyjamas. If I had stayed home I wouldn't have made as close friendships with my new international friends. My closest friends here at University are from India, Germany, Switzerland, China, and Taiwan. I have learned so much about all of their cultures, shared meals, and learned new words in different languages.

I have also learned that my faith has changed. The YAV programme allowed me to question my faith denomination, to explore a new denomination, and to actively live a faith filled life in community. It led me to be less judgemental both on myself and others and showed me that I believe in a God that loves everyone no matter who they are. We do not need labels, we just need to believe in the gospel which was Love God and Love Others. It was a simple message but with humans nothing is simple and so we complicated it and we built walls and made labels and rules and different denominations for a faith that all believe in one God. And we started hurting one another. So this past year I have learned that we could all use a little more love and kindness and the God I believe in is built on that.

The aspect of my current life that I have felt I have learned the most about is my future ambitions. I decided to do a Masters in International Business and Entrepreneurship because my dream is to open my own social enterprise and I wanted to stay in Glasgow and continue the work I was doing. The last three months I have had the pleasure of continuing my work with theGKexperience, a charity that works with vulnerable youth in Glasgow, alongside my studying. I have been voluntarily filling in for the administrator while she has been on maternity leave since May and have been given so many opportunities to learn from Alex and John, two of the staff members, about youth work, the every day workings of a charity, and the strategic decisions you have to think about as an organisation that is 5 years old and still having growing pains. It has been the best non-internship I could have asked for and has sparked more of an interest in youth work and continued to shape my interest in social enterprises and non-profits. I am so excited for the rest of the year and what is to come from my adventure with theGKexperience. I hope to connect my passion for serving others with sustainable business practices and am trying to think of what type of social enterprise I can start once my time here has ended.

I am so thankful to my friends and family for always supporting me, even in the tough times. And I am so very thankful to the YAV programme and all my other YAVs around the world for its continued support even after our year has finished. So sorry the post was so long but I finally found the words to share with you about my continued Scottish adventure. I hope everyone has a wonderful Holiday Season!

Blessings,
Julie

Saturday, August 27, 2016

Appreciating the Place you Call Home

I have now been back in the United States, and in my home state of California for a little under 2 weeks. There is nothing like the familiarity of home: the windy road you drive up to get to your house, the way your home Safeway feels when you walk inside and know exactly where the milk is, and how perfect the weather is in your home town, hot and sunny during the day and then it cools off in the evening. You forget how much you miss home, when you have been gone for so long and it is only when you come back that you get to appreciate the beauty of the place you call home.

I loved my time in Scotland and that is a big reason of why I am going back, but I know leaving California again, and my family and friends for another year will be very difficult. I was talking to my Aunt Karen who lives in Minnesota and was visiting for the weekend and we were talking about how, for her, leaving California every time she visits is really difficult. She is sad every time no matter how many times in her life she has done it. But she says once she gets back to Minnesota and into her routine, she gets used to it and remembers why she loves Minnesota and her life and friends there. I think when you spend enough time in a place, just like with people, a little piece of your heart stays with it. I think that is why we are drawn back to people or places that mean something to us. And while reflecting back on my year, I can say a big part of my heart has been left in Glasgow.

I am currently reading a book called Being Human by Steve Chalke, and I would recommend it to everyone. It is about how to become the person you were meant to be and it was given to me by my site coordinator Lynn as a leaving present. It has been an extremely interesting book to read and many things have caused me to think about my life and my decisions and how I can apply what Steve says into my own life.

But one part that really stuck out to me as I was reading and reflecting on being home and my past year was a part about giving things away. Steve says, "Jesus taught us to behave as if nothing we give away could ever make us poorer, because we can never run out of what we give. Rather than trying to grip your life with tight, anxious hands, unclench that fist. Open your hand. Don't plot and scheme about tomorrow. Live with reckless generosity. Serve others. Give up the best seat. If you try to keep what you have, you'll lose even that. Give it away, and you'll get back more than you bargain for. Give it away, and you'll get back more than you ever dreamt you could get."

I believe this whole heartedly. The YAV program encouraged us to live simply and this allowed me to free myself of wanting or thinking I needed possessions, and material things, and the next cool gadget. My YAV year allowed me to give everything away, even parts of my heart, and it opened up this river inside of me that I hope is there forever. Constantly giving of myself, my talents, my feelings, my love, and constantly receiving more than I could ever dream of. I hope that in my future the people I work with continue to be touched by the love God has given me to give to others.

The book also talks about what success is and it says "that the ingredients to an organization becoming great is that it is led by someone who has the skill to blend extreme personal humility with intense professional will." I would like to believe that day by day I am growing into a person with extreme personal humility and that through my masters program starting in September, and more life experience and passion, I can gain an intense professional will and become the person I am meant to be.

Blessings,
Julie

Monday, July 18, 2016

See Yous Later...

When I was thinking about what I was going to say in this blog it was a real struggle for me. This year I have grown more and learned more than I ever thought possible. I came to Scotland with no expectations. The only things I knew was that I would be working in the Gorbals, which according to rumors and the internet was a very dangerous place and had been trying to rebuild itself for 20 years, that I would be living with 4 other girls I had only met once, and that I was living 5,000 miles from my friends and family. My mom was a little worried that I would be moving to the stabbing capital of Europe working in an area like the Gorbals but I was just full of excitement for what my year would look like and of the relationships I would build and the people I would get to call my community.

But let me tell you, I couldn’t have imagined a better placement in this church and a better community for my year. I got to sit with people from all different backgrounds and hear their struggles, their joys, and just got to know them. I met many asylum seekers and refugees through Bridging the Gap that I got along with better because neither of us could understand the Scottish accent. I learned patience with toddlers, I mastered my crafting skills coming up with more craft ideas than I knew was possible, and I got to try many different types of food at the drop in.

I was pushed out of my comfort zone in the café when I saw people come in that have been affected by drugs and wouldn’t even remember coming in the next day. I learned how to be there for people without judging them. I learned how to show Christian love rather than talking about it. I was able to be a member of the community, and take part in all sorts of activities and fairs. People were always confused as to which organization I was actually a part of because I was everywhere.

I learned that life isn’t easy, that each person is unique and has their own daily struggles, whether it is addiction, confidence, mental illness, feeling like an outsider, language difficulties, loneliness, depression, and many more. And the greatest thing I learned this year was that everyone just wants to be loved. Every person deserves a chance to be loved and valued and I got to spend an entire year doing just that.

I built friendships that look more like family. I cannot be more grateful to one of my flatmates in particular, Sam, who without, I might not have survived or thrived this year. I also made friends with Scottish natives who became great friends. They taught me the local slang and shared their families with me. One family in particular has been the MacDonalds. I spent most Sunday evenings having dinner with them and spent many nights at their house in a room I joke is mine now. They brought me into their family for holidays and family events which I cannot be more thankful for. Thank you for being my second family and making me feel like another daughter.  

This year I was also challenged in my faith. I came into a Presbyterian program as a Catholic and lived in a city filled with sectarianism. I was pushed out of my comfort zone going to a Presbyterian service each week but ended up growing into it and loving the services and the differences between a Catholic mass and the services at Gorbals. I learned to question my faith and struggle through who I am and who I want to be. I grew more independent and learned more about how I want to impact the world after serving my YAV year.

And because I love this city and everyone I have met so much I have decided to stay another year and do a masters program at Glasgow Uni in International Business and Entrepreneurship. Throughout this year I have worked with different community projects that work with amazing people. It has increased my passion to work with the same communities of people in my future and I want to be able to help those people in a profitable enterprise. I hope to take all that I have learned and carry it with me in my future here in Glasgow next year and when I return to the United States. I am so grateful for my time here, all the people I have interacted with, and I am really going to miss everyone. 

I am so grateful for everyone that has read this blog the last year. Your support has been more important than you can imagine and I hope you continue reading. I plan to continue my blogging next year while studying. Thank you to my amazing support system at home of family and friends who listened to my complaints, frustrations, and joys. I couldn't have done any of this without you all. A common phrase I heard all year was see yous later. So to all those in Glasgow, I will see yous later and to all those at home, can't wait to see you all soon!

Blessings,
Julie



Thursday, June 16, 2016

Ode to Bridging The Gap

I have wanted to write a blog about this most amazing organisation all year long and have many pictures to put up with it. So I thought it would be fitting to write it today considering today was the last BIG Thursday drop in session and my first goodbye of this year.

I know I must have said this a thousand times but I cannot believe how fast this year has gone. It is almost the summer holidays which means that a lot of the programs put on by the different organisations I work with are coming to an end. Over the last 9 1/2 months I have worked with Bridging the Gap for most of each week. I have had the pleasure of being involved in their Baby and Toddler groups, their weekly BIG Thursday drop in, a little bit of the High Rise Bakers, and the school transitions, along with other one off events.

I cannot explain in words how grateful I am to this organisation and all the people who work and volunteer for it. The staff is extraordinary, they care about each and every person, make everyone feel welcome, and have the best humor. I remember on my first day, Tricia, the director was telling me about the project and introducing me to everyone and made me close my eyes and told me we were going to pray. She then made me get on the floor and hold an apple and pray with the apple. The rest of the office also got on the floor but they were all in on the joke. As I was about to say something foolish, meanwhile thinking "this is kind of weird," Tricia started laughing and told me it was a joke. For my first day, it was a great start to the year and since then there have been many more jokes that luckily I have known about previously.

I have loved my time getting to know all the kids and parents at the two toddler groups, and being on the kids team at the drop in. It is amazing how much a 1 year-old grows in just a year when you see them 3 times a week. I have loved seeing them learn to share, start to speak, walk, and become independent from their moms, dads, or carers. I have specifically liked hearing a few of the toddlers, specifically conor and zara learn to say my name, and finally after many months trust me and play with me. It gives me so much joy and they brighten my days every week.

For those of you who knew me before I started you knew that I hated crafting. I am not creative when it comes to artwork like drawing and painting and most crafty activities stress me out, so I had it coming when I found out that at all our groups we do lots of crafts and on the Thursday group I had to organize and help think of the ideas. But this year was about growing and being comfortable in the uncomfortable and I can truly say that after all this time, I had started to enjoy crafting. I have done some great activities with the kids, including rice art, ziplock bag painting, snow globe making, and lots of crazy scientist experiments. I have also learned that 2 year-olds are amused by the simplest things, you can give them shredded paper and they will laugh that hearty innocent contagious laugh that causes you to start laughing and not stop.

I have also loved getting to know all the volunteers and community members of the Gorbals through Bridging the Gap. Due to my involvement in multiple projects throughout the Gorbals I end up being at lots of different events. And the best compliment I could have gotten was from a woman who I normally see on a Tuesday who said"who actually employs you, because I see you everywhere." I was touched, because my aim of this year was to build relationships in my community, to try and understand the lives of the Gorbals people, and to be with them, to love them, to support them, to laugh with them, and to learn with them. I think my time here has been all of that and more thanks to all the people I have spent time with.

Through all the struggles of being in a new city, with new friends, missing old friends Bridging the Gap was my happy place. If I was having a bad day or a bad week, I knew there was someone at Bridging the Gap that would listen or make me laugh, and cheer me up and I was excited each and every day to go to work.

So thank you, Bridging the Gap. This year would not have been the same without you, and it will never be the same going forward. Thank you for challenging me, for loving me, for making me shine,  for cooking me some of the best authentic food from different cultures, and for being a fantastic organisation that this community is lucky to have!

Blessings,
Julie

Here is the link to their website and Facebook page in case anyone wants to check it out. And here are lots of pictures of the many activities I participated in. Thanks to Magda for most of the pictures, she is the photographer for Bridging the Gap and caught some wonderful moments.

Website: http://www.bridging-the-gap.org/
Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/btgglasgow

Playing with shredded paper

 Making a scarecrow

 Playing with slides and building blocks


 Snowmen!

 Singing time

 The day animal man came to visit


 Laughing because Viha was probably being the cutest dancer

 International Women's Day

 The coolest kids in town (pronounced toon)! Zara and Conor


 At our volunteer thank you dinner we got to enjoy delicious food, I tried Eritrean coffee, which has ginger in it, and we got certificates!

We also got to build a lego version of the BIG Thursday Drop in. It is extremely accurate. 

Here is the kitchen with the tea cups and in the second picture even the basket with the dirty dish towels and the baby gate


A bird's eye view of the kitchen and the adult area, with the ping pong table and the fruit lady, and Magda our photographer


There is me with the blue top and ponytail in the kids area. The blue and yellow legos are the mats and the slides, and there is animal man with a shark



Pictures from the Christmas Party, John and I in our Christmas sweaters. 


And finally, as I said, Magda capturing my truest joys of working with Bridging the Gap